We have all seen the text chain that goes way out of line or the friend that accidentally sent something to the wrong person. It was not good. The worst stories are the political figures or celebrities that now have inappropriate or mis-conduct out there for all to see and document. Here are the top rules to live by so that that never happens to you. Each and everyone of these rules is tried and true. Most have been utilized personally after personal or close contact blunders

There is a natural line-up to life. Your born, you live, you pass on. Much of how we do things in that space also has rhythms. Some of us have better systems in place than others but for the most part we all, Wake-up, brush teeth, work five days (sometimes six), take weekend’s off, vacation once or twice a year. Just like in life, it seems that some people hit the jack pot with their love lives. These are the ones that “got lucky”, made it work, have “an easy go of it”, a sto

From the beginning of time men and women have been given subtle pushes from society and our world of what roles we should play and what obligations we have. When we don’t measure up in any way we feel shame. Shame: Makes us feel less than; it diminishes the individual’s value It causes us to hide our true selves It creates a belief that there is something wrong with the individual We have been dealing with the feelings of insufficiency and incompleteness since before sin e

When people think of a new year they think of new beginnings. Of a fresh start and of endless possibilities. We do not think of loss or of waiting. We do not think of deprivation and of letting go but of celebration. However without these painful things we do not know or understand the words gain or joy. Because to understand joy we must know what its opposite is. By understanding not only what it is but also, what it is not. The year of 2020 opened up for us with great hope

Many of you know I took almost three whole months off of blogging this summer. I tried to keep it up. As a helpful tool for all of us in our quarantine months. It was also, a vital creative outlet for me. Yet, as the months past, It became very apparent that I could not keep up. Mentally and physically I was running out of inspiration. Things were drastically shifting in my world and the world around me. I didn’t have the bandwidth. I believe a lot of us push hard against rel

How are you energizing your date life? Unless we push ourselves and fuel our creative ideas, most of us will just go into auto pilot. You have a lifetime to unravel the mysteries of their heart, personality, and desires. There are no shortcuts here. Learning the art of dating well is a worthy endeavor to continually cultivate! And you don’t have to have a lot of money to go on a date. So if that’s your excuse let’s get it off the table right now! The date is about the pursuit

Just a few short years ago I went through a massive personal crisis. I had given up my life career to take on another dream. Motherhood. I loved it. I had prayed for it. I was living it the absolute best way too. I mean, I knew my kids sleep schedules, I faithfully read to them, and created boundaries for proper development. I was loosing myself. But, as I said before, I loved it. After all, didn’t Christ say “to lose was to gain?” What I didn’t expect was to meet someone a f

Life can be so hard at times. Things can be thrown at you that you are unprepared for, and that knocks the wind right out of you. Things that despite your best efforts you have no control over. I have a saying personally about this. “We don’t get to write our stories. God does that. But it is what we do with our story that matters!” I know from experience that it is said every third sentence is negative in some way. And as I become more and more aware of it I am in awe with h

Recently I had someone I wanted to try and meet up with and they couldn’t. It got me thinking about how much we max out our lives and then can’t find time for people. So as not to confuse you that this was a one time ask and during the end of the year, I was asking this person back in August for a get together they couldn’t make until January. I had another person recently tell me; “You want us to be friends, but we just aren’t.” Ouch. That one stung. Hard. As I jump into the

The Holidays roll around and with it a word. Sometimes whispered sometimes punched out on a Polar Express Ticket and sometimes shouted out by a toddler. The word is “Believe”. It is suppose too evoke a kind of magical awe in the individual saying it and encourage them. But what if it is hard to Believe? What if you’re scared? What if you are going through something really hard? What if you don’t like the way the belief is playing out? What if stepping out of the boat and bein

On one particular “girl nights” this past summer I played one of those question games where you get to know people better. Things like, “If you were a unicorn what would you do?” or “If we were all in a fire who would be best equipped to handle the exit strategy?” All of these questions were really funny but the answers made them even funnier! This little game however led my husband and I to use one of the questions in a very different capacity. As most of you know, we speak,

I am very good at saying the word “no”. I say that not to boast but because I have two friends that say it to me a lot. “Your very good at saying no.” These are loving people who think the best of me and mean well. They are giving me a compliment. Basically they are saying they admire my discipline to say “No” to things that are not going to benefit me and my family. Sometimes the no is for “not right now” and sometimes it is a no for forever. Saying NO is a very good skill t

I read a great article the other day from the Atlanta Business Chronicle called “7 Habits of Amazing Successful Sales People (Terry Brock, Contributing Writer)”and one of the habits seemed to jump off the page at me: Hustle when others hunker down.  When uncertainty or tough times come about (and they always do) the winners and leaders take a different approach than the average person – they jump into hustle mode while others want to stay under the radar and not rock the boat

Screen time is what we call anything from your phone to laptops, TV, movies, gaming systems, and social media platforms. When I say you must break up with your phone I am referring to all of these. It is estimated at the time of this writing, according to a Google search, that people spend more than two whole weeks of there life on Instagram alone, and that Netflix is actually a deterrent for sex (https://nypost.com/2018/05/06/netflix-is-killing-couples-sex-lives-study/). The

The holiday’s can be so much fun!! They can also encompass too much of a good thing. I believe in moderation in almost all things. Too much sleep, your lazy. Too much sugar; you’re a glutton. Too much exercise; your obsessed. Too much of extended family; you loose relationships (Or secretly wish you could have “too much drink”). Too much of the holiday hoopla; You end up turning into The Grinch. Stress creates a flight or fight situation. Even good stress. Identifying the str

Prominent research firms tell us that the top 2 leading causes for marital strain (and divorce) is money and sex.  I think most people would agree with this statement even if it wasn’t backed by statistics.  Interestingly enough, both of these have a common denominator that works like a virus, slowly infecting every aspect of our relationships.  Secrecy.   So let’s talk about “money” and its impact on marriage… but stay plugged into our blog for a future posting on sex and th

Love is in the air with Holiday’s rapidly approaching!  Everyone is more giving and more thoughtful. They are also more stressed and rushed and panicked to get everything right before the jolly man in the red suit shows up. Grab those roses, gifts that come in small boxes, and reservations for those sold out restaurants.  But before getting swept up in the emotions of the season I wonder if we can touch on this topic of love. If you are married you probably think you have a g

Rest is something I am not good at. Truth be told I don’t think anyone is great at it. Lots of people may argue that point with me. Saying they are great at throwing on the PJ’s and binge watching tv for days on in while eating Doritos. Some will tell me that they can sleep till 11 am on weekends to “catch up” on rest. Neither one of those is rest. It’s a bad self-induced rehab. It is trying to recover from a life wrecked by not resting well, tying to implement these tactics

With great pleasure and excitement I am pleased to announce the exciting news of adding another writer to this site! At six feet and with a smile that melts anyone, he is GQ in the flesh. The one and only “Stevo”. We have been married for over 11 years and as he is an excellent leader, speaker and writer we are joining forces to bring you the top tips and tricks in creating the exceptional life. His focus will be more on spiritual growth, “man-ly” things, and on relationships

The effects of being in an industry and a social network that is full in content can be daunting and wrought with disappointment and push back. For anyone in the blogging world, it can be all-consuming to try to set your mark. We live in a space that seems to already have everything. Full to the brim, it can be overwhelming, bleak, and mountainous. However, I believe this is true for many industries now. It seems acquisitions and platforms need to be so big to do anything of